Perfectionism is a trap, because the perfectionist person believes that she must be living in a perfect world; this is an illusion that does not fit with the human race and our world.
It is fine to feel whole and complete with a feeling that we are enough, but the perfection belongs to our Creator, and by willing to be perfect like Him, there is a tendency to want to share His powers, which is totally impossible.
What happens when a person is perfectionist? She simply becomes unsatisfied in everything she does, she self-judges herself and others, she has difficulties forgiving herself and others, and she hardens her heart with her ego and with negative emotions which keep her stuck with negative energy.
Perfectionists people do not allow themselves to do an error or a mistake, whereas errors or mistakes must be accepted and welcomed naturally as friends in our path to success, as most famous spiritual masters say: – our mistakes are our best teachers because we learn from them to grow and prosper, they allow us to open the doors to new experiences and opportunities, to discover life in all its forms, to accept change, and to evolve in the path of self-growth.
Self-esteem is about setting our intuition free to be developed naturally, and about deservedness.
When our self-esteem is low, we are unable to make good choices and right decisions, and cannot trust our intuition to guide us because we have already exchanged the power of our soul with external entities, looking for approval of others, and doubting ourselves by asking the question whether we will fail or not before the eyes of others.
It is unfortunate that most of societies around the world are preventing our children from experiencing decision-making at an early age, because this skill is very active during their growth.
Childhood and adolescence are our life moments when we feel this great desire to discover the power of this skill, in general it develops very quickly between the age of 11 to 21.
In the case of a child who has never been given the opportunity to make his own choices during his growth, he will not experience the universal law of cause and effect. The world may seem to him as a place where it is the “chance” that directs everything randomly and where “luck” and “misfortune” may play a crucial role in his life.
Unfortunately, in the majority of our societies, children are deprived of self-making decisions, and this leaves them totally dependent on their families, incapable of believing in themselves and in the power of their soul.
Self-esteem is a personality factor, it is about trusting our abilities to make good choices, and believing in our capacities to make right decisions, to attract situations that reflect internal integrity, freedom and safety.
Emotional Intelligence is an approach that will raise your awareness of what maybe holding you back to achieve your success and happiness, and help you strive to be the only emotionally intelligent leader you should ever be waiting for – You !
Emotional intelligence is the science of our time. It is based on the art of managing our emotions by learning how to synchronize the feelings of the heart with the thoughts of the mind, to find the right balance to contribute for a happy family or to lead good business relationships.
In addition to our two polarities, men and women operates differently, men operates under the “single focus” mode ” and women under the “multi-task” mode, and by understanding this reality we can establish a better communication based on respect of their difference in order to understand one another.
We begin first to discover ourselves by making an introspection: we must unite our two polarities, the masculine and the feminine, to regain their balance and their infinite values, and be able to project this harmony towards our relationships and the external world. When we learn how to balance our two polarities within, we learn how to respect the masculine energy and the feminine energy with their authentic values. This understanding helps us create the vital space to be able to love, respect and appreciate one another.
For example in one and same family it is clear that the needs of each member is different from one another, that is why it is Important to go through good communication in to reveal each others needs, and discover the art of emotional transition that transports us gently from one emotion to another and plays a capital role in most quality relationships, because it allows us to move from one state of mind to another gracefully with kindness.
In a professional case where all males and females are qualified professionals, to succeed in business, the entrepreneur can not rely on his authoritarian side to give orders to his employees to achieve his objectives. For a long-term productivity he must consider the life and well-being of each of his employees to be able to navigate his boat in an effective and sustainable conditions, as their general state of mind will determine inevitably the balance or imbalance, and the direction his business is taking.
In many cases emotional intelligence is the art of emotional transition that determines the art of living in a quality relationships based respect, knowing that the suitable transition is appropriate to each one will avoid conflicts, frustrations, and discord to make room for a better communication, change, understanding and well-being.
Understanding the need, why it feels good to meditate and pray.
As humans, we need to recharge ourselves with positive energy for our health, our psychological and our emotional balance.
It is necessary for our inspiration and creativity to align ourselves with the universal laws to be able to fulfill our Divine mission that is our destiny. It is necessary to silence the mind and our inner voice to reach the deepest silence of our soul, and listen to our intuition, our precious guide, and to what it has to reveal to us for the next step to take.
It is necessary to reconnect with our inner child too, to know the emotions that are holding us back from completing our destiny, and to free our inner child gradually from any negative charge by reminding him constantly how much we care, love and protect him and that he is completely safe.
It is important to stay connected to our heart, and be able to forgive our own ignorance, and forgive all those we think have “harmed” us, so that we can achieve a permanent letting go guided by our Divine intuition and find all the treasures of our soul within, placed carefully inside by our Creator, and share with others all the riches and the abundance of our wonderful world.
L’intelligence du cœur (ou l’intelligence émotionnelle) est une science, elle est basée sur l’art de gérer ses émotions en les alignant avec son esprit, tout en apprenant à synchroniser son cœur et ses pensées, afin de trouver l’équilibre et l’harmonie, et se maîtriser pour réussir ses relations familiales et professionnelles.
Pour progresser dans cette science commençons tout d’abord par respecter l’homme et la femme en acceptant sereinement leurs différences. Les chercheurs ont démontré que pour des raisons bio-psychologiques nous avons tous deux polarités en nous: une masculine et une féminine, mais le cerveau de l’un et de l’autre fonctionne différemment, ils ont prouvé que l’homme fonctionne avec 70% de logique et 30% d’émotions, et la femme fonctionne avec 70% de sentiments et 30% de logique. Pour ceux qui ignorent ou rejettent cette réalité, ils auront souvent des confusions et des conflits que ce soit dans leur relation familiale ou professionnelle.
Avec ces données là il est important de comprendre aussi l’importance de l’art de la transition émotionnelle pour maintenir des relations de qualité basées sur de bonnes émotions gérées par l’intelligence du cœur qui vous transporte d’une émotion à l’autre avec grâce, sagesse et respect, grâce à votre intuition qui se ressource naturellement dans la spiritualité et dans la nature afin de pouvoir vous aligner avec l’essence de votre être le plus authentique ou votre âme.
According to scientific researchers, energy psychology helps us regain our emotional balance.
One of the best things you can do for yourself is to reconnect with your inner child to reassure him, that you are here to protect him, reminding him that no one will ever “hurt” him again. This step is important because he will either free you or imprison you for the rest of your life. Lifting the veil on the negative imprints of your childhood is crucial because we have all been affected by some events. There might be a few words that may have paralyzed us with fear and discouragement through negative experiences that stayed imprinted in our subconscious mind. Finding them will lift the veil, and will help us with our emotional healing.
During the healing process, it is necessary to create a bond of trust with your inner child so that he can reveal his sorrows, his hurts and traumas such as rejection and abandonment that judged him in the past, abused him, and underestimated him, this action will give to the adult in you the possibility to welcome his negative emotions, dedramatize them with forgiveness, peace and love.
S’accepter c’est accepter ses quatre corps le spirituel, le mental, l’émotionnel et le physique sereinement, c’est accepter ses défauts et ses qualités, ses erreurs, son passé, son corps, ses imperfections, la vie telle qu’elle est aujourd’hui et maintenant.
S’accepter c’est se pardonner afin de laisser la place au changement et aux nouvelles opportunités, et ce n’est qu’en acceptant ses deux polarités la féminine et la masculine, que nous pourrons accepter le sexe opposé sans jugement avec ses qualités et ses défauts, car il est pratiquement impossible d’accepter son prochain sans commencer par s’accepter soi-même, vu que tout commence par soi.
Nous ne faisons que projeter ce qui est à l’intérieur de nous vers notre environnement comme de simples miroirs.
Lorsque votre personnalité est unifiée entre ombre et lumière, développée et intégrée, vous devenez votre âme qui est le parfait instrument avec lequel vous pouvez atteindre vos objectifs et vous prononcer pleinement dans le voyage de votre vie, car votre âme est l’unique véhicule dont vous avez besoin pour vous exprimer sur terre.
The importance of clearing your limiting beliefs is to not give up on yourself, it’s to leave the victimhood mode completly and allow yourself to be empowered and awakened.
The Divine in you wants to operate through you. You need then, to prepare yourself by opening the channels of the Divine and unconditional love.
The higher power can’t operate through you with your limiting beliefs inside, ego and “forcing things to happen”, but it can operate through you with grace and intuition when you are fully awakened.
To clear limiting beliefs we need to discern the difference between beliefs and facts because not all beliefs are factional or proven as true. We need to clear the limiting beliefs that seem to be “true” or “you have faith in” and don’t serve you anymore.
And how do you recognize that? Simply through your emotions. Emotions are very powerful, they are indicators of pessimism, scarcity or fear, and they shape your mindset your character and personality.
To clear the negative energy from your emotions is to bring up the best in you with peace and joy.
The healthy development of your self-esteem allows you to trust your decision-making, and to feel safe to realize your dreams with positive results. It is according to science and quantum physics that the law of cause and effect makes the whole world go around.
It is truly unfortunate that society around the world is preventing our children from experiencing their own decision-making at an early age to help them raise their self-esteem through the universal law of cause and effect because their energy centers (chakras) are generally open and very active during their growth. It is during their childhood and adolescence, that they feel the need to discover this skill.
A person with low self-esteem and the inability to make decisions cannot trust their intuition to guide them because they have already exchanged the power of their soul with external entities, doubting themselves by often asking the question whether or not they will fail before the eyes of others.
The intuition is never wrong, because it comes from the soul, the source that challenges time and space, the part of us that is the closest to our Creator, the Infinite and inexhaustible Source. Our intuition always guides us to take initiatives to see clearly in the present moment, and what is the next step we must take.
Awareness begins with taking responsibility of our decision-making, and recognizing that we are the creators of the cause of all that is happening to us. With self-esteem and decision-making abilities, a person can begin to see the link between their choices and the world to be able to shape their life. When this happens, they stops attracting situations that reflect low self-esteem, and begin attracting situations that reflect internal integrity, freedom and safety.
Our soul is composed of four bodies. Those bodies are physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
We know about the physical and the spiritual, but not much about the other two the mental and the emotional, which are equally important, we don’t see them because they are found only in the subtle matter, a matter that has a higher vibration frequency beyond the one of our physical body and our sensory perceptions. All of these energies are regulated by our Creator to move around and through our physical body. The different energy layers are also known as a whole to form our aura.
Our mental body is the energetic part in which we store our fundamental beliefs about ourselves, about others and the world. It helps us process information, solve problems and generate abstract thinking. This is where our thoughts are produced or created in relation to our analytic reason, logic and everyday memory. It is because of our mental body that whichever feeling we think is positive such as love, will create the desire to reconnect with the people we love. Also the mind retreats and distances itself in order to think better- because of this it always retains this primitive instinct of separation, comparing and contrasting the present situation with the memories of the past experiences, while trying to find a model or value with which it classifies the present situation. This also means that thoughts in our lower mind or the ego are always coming from the past to create a certain separation with the present. When we have clearly identified our negative thoughts and the patterns that generally limit our ability to evolve in life, we will begin to change our internal / external perception and vision of life, allowing ourselves to go with a greater clarity on the Divine unconditional love. When the mental body finally dissipates and no longer directs us, we can create a link to our heart and begin to follow our soul rather than our ego.
Our emotional body is the one through which we learn to manage our emotions in order to cultivate our emotional intelligence, the essence of our soul and the positive drive of our relationships with others. It is the center of our feelings and emotions: love and hate, attraction and repulsion. When combined with our spirit, it brings us desire and imagination; it is also the location of sensual pleasure, and real appreciation. When we sleep, for example, we interpret our astral perceptions through our senses with dreams or nightmares. Our emotional body holds all the memories and experiences we have already experienced. We often refer to them as our ‘emotional baggage’. In reality the emotional body corresponds to our faculty of feeling emotions- in common language, the language of the emotional body is referred as the ‘heart’ and the mental body as the ‘head’. These labels correspond to the locations of the two different energy centers in our system. The emotional body is also known to be composed of a vortex of colors that identifies our aura, and the natural vibration of light from which all creation is expressed; certain shapes and colors represent emotional characteristics that are unique to each person. For example, an angry or aggressive person will have a lot of red around his aura whereas an intellectual person will project a large amount of yellow and a spiritual person from blue to violet and so on.
Our spiritual body is the one by which we appreciate all the Divine creation from the small leaf of a tree to the most beautiful stars and planets like the sun, the moon, and the stars. It is the link between our soul and the world. When the spiritual body is purified from limiting beliefs, superstitions, prejudices and negative perceptions of life, we can reconnect with God’s Divine Will. Our spiritual body is programmed by our Creator since birth to organize and vitalize the physical body and act as a bridge between the physical, mental and emotional bodies through our energy system. Our spiritual body reacts directly to prayer, acupuncture, yoga and meditation. Often, it is referred to as the body we are going to inhabit when we have evolved in full awareness and full enlightenment.
Wafa El-Amrani 
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