Resentment, judgements, condemnation of others, remorse and hostility are the poison of the Soul, and are behind a host of illnesses ranging from arthritis to cardiac disease.
To forgive others is to set yourself free from the past, To forgive is to reconnect with your Divine faith and with yourself, To forgive is to be able to grow spiritually, in great health and prosperity, And it is not enough to forgive others, you must forgive yourselves too for your ignorance of the “ego”.
Beaucoup confondent l’ego et l’amour de soi, qui sont en réalité deux choses complètement opposées.
L’ego est un système de fonctionnement qui a toujours créé un sentiment d’infériorité et de supériorité, de comparaison et de compétition pour installer deux émotions négatives: la peur et la culpabilité. Ce système a tendance à s’auto-absorber, il divise les peuples et les nations en une société qui oppose les hommes et les femmes, les noirs et les blancs, les riches et les pauvres, etc.. une société qui crée des préférences et des injustices, pour installer un excès d’orgueil divisant l’humanité avec un sentiment d’auto-importance basé sur de l’égoïsme, où la personne n’est consciente que d’elle-même, concernée que par sa propre situation, et plus rien d’autre autour d’elle n’a de l’importance.
Alors que l’amour de soi est une émotion d’acceptation et de générosité, lorsqu’on s’aime humblement et inconditionnellement, et qu’on le projette gracieusement vers son environnement, qui n’attend que ce beau partage pour propager plus de bien-être et de joie de vivre, la vision de la vie change totalement. Lorsque s’aimer se fait d’une manière simple, humble et terre-à-terre, on apprécie et on accepte avec amour la façon dont notre Créateur nous a créé, Il nous a créé avec un esprit, un coeur, un corps le tout pour former notre âme qui est le seul véhicule qui nous permet de nous exprimer et de vivre pleinement notre vie, et quand on accepte notre nature avec paix et gratitude, ça nous incite à être beaucoup plus tolérant et attentionné envers les autres. Si vous vous aimez et si vous vous acceptez tel que vous êtes, vous n’avez aucune raison de ressentir de la peur, de la jalousie ou de l’insécurité; contrairement à l’ego qui lui est rempli d’insécurité, vu que sa peur le gonfle constamment d’orgueil et de “supériorité” sur les autres.
L’amour de soi est un acte d’amour, c’est un acte d’acceptation de toutes les choses et les détails sur vous même. S’aimer soi-même c’est s’accepter complètement, c’est accepter ses erreurs, son passé, son corps, ses imperfections, ses qualités, ses défauts, son ombre et sa lumière, c’est accepter sa vie telle qu’elle est aujourd’hui et maintenant; s’aimer c’est aussi savoir se pardonner et faire son lâcher prise sur les choses du passé qui ne servent plus dans le présent, c’est pouvoir faire une place au changement et aux nouvelles opportunités.
S’aimer c’est aussi accepter ses deux polarités féminine et masculine avec leurs qualités, leurs valeurs et leurs dons divins de naissance. Ce n’est qu’en acceptant nos deux polarités qu’on peut accepter et respecter le sexe opposé vu que tout commence par nous-même avant de le projeter sur les autres; par contre si on rejette ou on n’accepte pas l’une de ses deux polarités on ne fait que rejeter une partie de nous-même.
L’amour de soi est un acte de foi, il s’agit d’accepter comment notre Créateur a choisi de nous créer à la naissance.
Lorsque vous ressentez des émotions négatives, de la colère ou de la peur par exemple, cela signifie tout simplement qu’il y a un désir en vous, une envie de quelque chose que vous aimeriez réaliser dans le moment présent, mais qui est en contradiction avec certaines croyances limitantes du passé toujours ancrées en vous.
Vos émotions ne sont que des indicateurs de la situation actuelle, et votre relation avec ce que vous désirez réaliser ou obtenir dans le présent.
Il est temps de commencer à vous détendre et faire connaissance avec vos émotions, ne jamais en faire un problème personnel ou les transformer en vos valeurs, car ce ne sont que de simples indicateurs, des outils pour vous guider, et vous permettre de réaliser vos rêves les plus grands.
En d’autres termes, soyez en conscients et posez-vous souvent cette question: “combien de fois ai-je pensé à cette pensée négative et comment pourrai-je la changer en positive pour me servir?”
Procrastination is a challenge, as even small tasks may seem heavy during this covid crisis. Most of us are struggling with delaying or avoiding things that truly matter to us.
Human beings have been procrastinating for centuries, but with the pandemic, they are doing it even more because of the lack of control over the current health situation. We are all struggling, because our daily way of living has changed and is now going against our will, caused by the mystery of the unknown, the stress, anxiety, unemployment, health issues, isolation and more.
Procrastination is about delaying our plans, wanting to take action in the future instead of the present, and looking for better future rewards instead of accepting the present ones as they are. Then, when nothing happens, there is so much anxiety, shame, and guilt that we end up feeling worse than the feeling of effort we would have had potentially put in.
The problem with the covid crisis is the lack of freedom to take action in the present moment. Being restricted makes it difficult to take actions in the present, and also creates a lack of motivation, idleness, and a feeling of “I don’t feel like doing anything, maybe just some online work”.
The other problem is that the restriction of social interactions like social distancing and less tangible connections, less participation in clubs etc. creates even more isolation and less human interaction, therefore more discouragement and procrastination.
So what is the solution?
To stop procrastination during the covid crisis we need to make it as easy as possible on ourselves. We need to be patient and kind to ourselves, and trust with faith that motivation will begin as soon as we make our first step and start whatever we want to start.
The key to stop procrastination is not about just doing the work, but it is about starting the work.
Perfectionism is a trap, because the perfectionist person believes that she must be living in a perfect world; this is an illusion that does not fit with the human race and our world.
It is fine to feel whole and complete with a feeling that we are enough, but the perfection belongs to our Creator, and by willing to be perfect like Him, there is a tendency to want to share His powers, which is totally impossible.
What happens when a person is perfectionist? She simply becomes unsatisfied in everything she does, she self-judges herself and others, she has difficulties forgiving herself and others, and she hardens her heart with her ego and with negative emotions which keep her stuck with negative energy.
Perfectionists people do not allow themselves to do an error or a mistake, whereas errors or mistakes must be accepted and welcomed naturally as friends in our path to success, as most famous spiritual masters say: – our mistakes are our best teachers because we learn from them to grow and prosper, they allow us to open the doors to new experiences and opportunities, to discover life in all its forms, to accept change, and to evolve in the path of self-growth.
Self-esteem is about setting our intuition free to be developed naturally, and about deservedness.
When our self-esteem is low, we are unable to make good choices and right decisions, and cannot trust our intuition to guide us because we have already exchanged the power of our soul with external entities, looking for approval of others, and doubting ourselves by asking the question whether we will fail or not before the eyes of others.
It is unfortunate that most of societies around the world are preventing our children from experiencing decision-making at an early age, because this skill is very active during their growth.
Childhood and adolescence are our life moments when we feel this great desire to discover the power of this skill, in general it develops very quickly between the age of 11 to 21.
In the case of a child who has never been given the opportunity to make his own choices during his growth, he will not experience the universal law of cause and effect. The world may seem to him as a place where it is the “chance” that directs everything randomly and where “luck” and “misfortune” may play a crucial role in his life.
Unfortunately, in the majority of our societies, children are deprived of self-making decisions, and this leaves them totally dependent on their families, incapable of believing in themselves and in the power of their soul.
Self-esteem is a personality factor, it is about trusting our abilities to make good choices, and believing in our capacities to make right decisions, to attract situations that reflect internal integrity, freedom and safety.
Emotional Intelligence is an approach that will raise your awareness of what maybe holding you back to achieve your success and happiness, and help you strive to be the only emotionally intelligent leader you should ever be waiting for – You !
Emotional intelligence is the science of our time. It is based on the art of managing our emotions by learning how to synchronize the feelings of the heart with the thoughts of the mind, to find the right balance to contribute for a happy family or to lead good business relationships.
In addition to our two polarities, men and women operates differently, men operates under the “single focus” mode ” and women under the “multi-task” mode, and by understanding this reality we can establish a better communication based on respect of their difference in order to understand one another.
We begin first to discover ourselves by making an introspection: we must unite our two polarities, the masculine and the feminine, to regain their balance and their infinite values, and be able to project this harmony towards our relationships and the external world. When we learn how to balance our two polarities within, we learn how to respect the masculine energy and the feminine energy with their authentic values. This understanding helps us create the vital space to be able to love, respect and appreciate one another.
For example in one and same family it is clear that the needs of each member is different from one another, that is why it is Important to go through good communication in to reveal each others needs, and discover the art of emotional transition that transports us gently from one emotion to another and plays a capital role in most quality relationships, because it allows us to move from one state of mind to another gracefully with kindness.
In a professional case where all males and females are qualified professionals, to succeed in business, the entrepreneur can not rely on his authoritarian side to give orders to his employees to achieve his objectives. For a long-term productivity he must consider the life and well-being of each of his employees to be able to navigate his boat in an effective and sustainable conditions, as their general state of mind will determine inevitably the balance or imbalance, and the direction his business is taking.
In many cases emotional intelligence is the art of emotional transition that determines the art of living in a quality relationships based respect, knowing that the suitable transition is appropriate to each one will avoid conflicts, frustrations, and discord to make room for a better communication, change, understanding and well-being.
Understanding the need, why it feels good to meditate and pray.
As humans, we need to recharge ourselves with positive energy for our health, our psychological and our emotional balance.
It is necessary for our inspiration and creativity to align ourselves with the universal laws to be able to fulfill our Divine mission that is our destiny. It is necessary to silence the mind and our inner voice to reach the deepest silence of our soul, and listen to our intuition, our precious guide, and to what it has to reveal to us for the next step to take.
It is necessary to reconnect with our inner child too, to know the emotions that are holding us back from completing our destiny, and to free our inner child gradually from any negative charge by reminding him constantly how much we care, love and protect him and that he is completely safe.
It is important to stay connected to our heart, and be able to forgive our own ignorance, and forgive all those we think have “harmed” us, so that we can achieve a permanent letting go guided by our Divine intuition and find all the treasures of our soul within, placed carefully inside by our Creator, and share with others all the riches and the abundance of our wonderful world.
L’intelligence du cœur (ou l’intelligence émotionnelle) est une science, elle est basée sur l’art de gérer ses émotions en les alignant avec son esprit, tout en apprenant à synchroniser son cœur et ses pensées, afin de trouver l’équilibre et l’harmonie, et se maîtriser pour réussir ses relations familiales et professionnelles.
Pour progresser dans cette science commençons tout d’abord par respecter l’homme et la femme en acceptant sereinement leurs différences. Les chercheurs ont démontré que pour des raisons bio-psychologiques nous avons tous deux polarités en nous: une masculine et une féminine, mais le cerveau de l’un et de l’autre fonctionne différemment, ils ont prouvé que l’homme fonctionne avec 70% de logique et 30% d’émotions, et la femme fonctionne avec 70% de sentiments et 30% de logique. Pour ceux qui ignorent ou rejettent cette réalité, ils auront souvent des confusions et des conflits que ce soit dans leur relation familiale ou professionnelle.
Avec ces données là il est important de comprendre aussi l’importance de l’art de la transition émotionnelle pour maintenir des relations de qualité basées sur de bonnes émotions gérées par l’intelligence du cœur qui vous transporte d’une émotion à l’autre avec grâce, sagesse et respect, grâce à votre intuition qui se ressource naturellement dans la spiritualité et dans la nature afin de pouvoir vous aligner avec l’essence de votre être le plus authentique ou votre âme.
According to scientific researchers, energy psychology helps us regain our emotional balance.
One of the best things you can do for yourself is to reconnect with your inner child to reassure him, that you are here to protect him, reminding him that no one will ever “hurt” him again. This step is important because he will either free you or imprison you for the rest of your life. Lifting the veil on the negative imprints of your childhood is crucial because we have all been affected by some events. There might be a few words that may have paralyzed us with fear and discouragement through negative experiences that stayed imprinted in our subconscious mind. Finding them will lift the veil, and will help us with our emotional healing.
During the healing process, it is necessary to create a bond of trust with your inner child so that he can reveal his sorrows, his hurts and traumas such as rejection and abandonment that judged him in the past, abused him, and underestimated him, this action will give to the adult in you the possibility to welcome his negative emotions, dedramatize them with forgiveness, peace and love.
Wafa El-Amrani 
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